To Be There For Someone

Lots of times a friend will say, as a comfort or for re-assurance:

"I will always be there for you."  

This statement, I feel, is thrown around a lot between people. It is usually said when someone is going through a hard time. Most people really do want to mean those words, but I believe it is rare when they are true and when you can trust that this friend will follow through. That's not to say that the person saying this, but not totally meaning it, is not a good friend. They just aren't the one you will go to when you really do need someone- when you need someone who knows you (the real you). Someone who can see past whatever it is you are going through and who can remain a constant source of honesty and love. 

These types of friends are very loving, very giving, very self-less people (the ones who truly mean it). And too many times, I have seen these types get taken advantage of by weak, unhappy, life-sucking, manipulating "friends". It is always difficult, and sometimes a tragic lesson learned, when it becomes clear that someone you love is taking advantage of you. This is when that promise must be revoked. You can no longer be there for that person in the way that you were. This could be what you call tough-love. 

The promise of being there for someone should be reciprocated. That is where the bond of a friendship becomes strong. That is how there can be trust in a relationship. Through good or bad, you have each other to fight for. A friendship is not all about complimenting, and agreeing. It is about loving each other so much that you push each other. Accepting each other as is, but seeing how truly great each others hearts are and wanting the very best for one another. That is what true friends fight for. 

A true friend is a gift from The Big Guy Himself, and a guide to remind you of who you really are when you lose your way.  They are rare. That is why it is so important to appreciate and honor them. I am fortunate to have a handful of these rare gifts.  But I must say, with a really warm heart, none are like Chloe. 

With love,

Cassie